"Are we going to start talking about some of the issues going on in America, why there's not so many black female couplings ... We'll just go to Europe and find a white guy.'" "That's not what we're saying," Weaver told me via Skype from Rome.
She's a former Los Angeles socialite who ran a once-popular site for affluent African-American Angelenos:
The company, which was originally named Bella Italia before expanding to other countries, arranges tours for groups ranging from fewer than 10 to over 70.
She could readily name all the women she's taken to Italy who are currently in relationships with, or married to, Italian men.
And black female sexuality has often only been portrayed in its most grotesque and sensational forms, those of Hottentot Venuses or conniving jezebels.
Throughout American history black women were either desexualized or hypersexualized according to the whims and anxieties of whites in control of their images.
And while these sites say they intend to expose black women to a world of possibilities, the "possibilities" seem to predominantly feature black women with white men — a move that, intentionally or not, presents interracial dating as aspirational.
In America, with the exceptions of nearly exclusively light-skinned celebrities, to desire a black woman is to reach your hand into the bottom of the beauty standard barrel.
It's why the adoration following Lupita has been so refreshing, and complicated.
At first glance, Black Girl Travel seems to be like any other American international travel club, just one that caters exclusively to black women.
But buried toward the bottom of its About Us page is a fuzzy You Tube video that indicates a wider problem.